Boot Camp Coaching: Manifesting vs. Doing

One of the 4 jobs I currently do is Life Coaching. I got into it a few years ago because of my master coach. She inspired me because her approach was so much about doing. There was always homework, always actions I had to be proving. It made a lot of sense to me. I had previously spoken to life coaches who did a lot with manifesting, writing things down, meditating. It just wasn’t my thing, it works for some people, but at the end of the day (and I am fully aware I may get some heat for this), the only thing that gets you results is DOING!

Yes, I read “The Secret” back in the day, I made a manifesting/dream board or whatever it was called. Guess what, it didn’t work, getting off my ass and working my ass off worked! A dream board helps with one thing, it acts as your task list. I will tell my clients to make them only as a task list because I for one am an image person, so I will have people make it in a checklist format. My way of coaching is in boot camp style. I am a realist. I do not believe in meditation, I do not believe in consistently talking about your problems. I work with your personal issues within the first month you work with me and then…WE TAKE ACTION! If you are rolling your eyes right now and thinking I am being judgy or harsh, I am not. Let me be clear on one thing, I never form an opinion or voice my convictions unless I have experienced what I am talking about. People come to work with me on their lives and careers because they want to see results and they are tired of trying to manifest what they want to happen. Get out and do it, don’t be afraid to fail. In fact I want you to fail so that you can see what it feels like and show yourself your a badass mother fucker who doesn’t take no for an answer.

My approach doesn’t work for everyone, but for those that like this bootcamp, no bullshit, realistic approach, it works wonders, it builds confidence, it turns you into someone who doesn’t have fears or a bunch of insecurities. You turn into a boss. I am not just saying this, I know this, because I once had a lot of fears, but I don’t anymore. If I want something I go get it, all in legal positive ways obviously!!! I knew what some of you might have been thinking, NO, I wouldn’t rob a bank if I wanted money, turn off that damn movie mind!

You want a new job, you hate Mondays? Go out and find your dream job, fucking work for it. Easier said than done right? Well if you want easy, go move to Costa Rica, because life and getting what you want isn’t easy, but I personally think that’s what makes it fun. That’s also something I teach, the thrill, the excitement and satisfaction of getting what you want through all the blood and sweat. It truly makes you feel like a badass. You want that vacation? Go out and fucking get it, do the research, make calls, get friendly over the phone with the front desk of the hotel, keep calling, find those deals. It will happen. You want that house? Go get your credit looking flawless, get that loan, make your bank trust your hustle. You want kids? Oh I hear the excuses already, this is the one thing I constantly hear about when I work with both single men and women. YES, with the men as well. I am just going to throw out a list and you can do the research. Adoption, cryobanks, surrogates, dating… I despise whining and feeling sorry for yourself, go get it if you want it!

I am happy to help be a trainer so to speak, a life coach, your bootcamp instructor, mentor or whatever terms makes you feel more comfortable. I want a real life approach to how you become happy, badass and successful. So your yoga and meditation might be helping your mood and you should definitely keep doing it, but come to me for the action in the lists and manifesting you have been doing, I want to see these lists sweat!

*Don’t forget to go and vote on Tuesday!

Orgasms & Ice Cream Parlors...

The title caught you off guard right?! GOOD! What more do you need when you are single AF? Oh you think you need a companion to make you feel content? Not necessarily. A good vibrator does the trick just fine. It doesn’t argue, it’s never late, it doesn’t climax first (or ever for that matter), you don’t have to cuddle…you get my drift. Ok so it doesn’t cook or clean, or make you a cocktail after a long day, but let’s be honest, are there many companions out there that do that for you when you come home from a long day?

So the point here is, if you want something, fucking go and get it yourself. You want an orgasm, great go get it, there are plenty of amazing vibrators and toys on the market that will keep you ever so satisfied. You want a kid? You have many options right in front of you! Ya I know I didn’t believe it myself and Men this means you as well. There are plenty of great sperm donors and surrogates for that dude desperate to be a Dad, but just hasn’t found the right girl. I have a plan in life and I don’t let anything get in the way of my plan. Unfortunately not everyone is down for your plan and dating can get in the way big time and prolong what you truly want.

The cryobanks are no joke. I found out about them from a very prominent fertility doctor while playing with the idea of getting my eggs frozen. Come to find out that I have a lot of eggs and freezing them would cost an arm and a leg…So no thanks, I don’t need to put those little fellas on ice just yet, but I am having quite the hay day checking out all the eligible sperm donors that I never ever have to deal with and low and behold they will provide me with a little baby. It’s like going to the ice cream parlor. Don’t know what flavor you want? Are you feeling like strawberry, a little swirl of chocolate and some caramel syrup? Well you are in luck, the cryobank provides you with pretty much anything you are looking for, even better than the ice cream parlor, you get straight down to the DNA specifics!

WOW! I know you mind is blown right now, you don’t have to hide it, I bet some of you have even gone straight to the California Cryobank website, maybe even registered to take a deeper look. It’s cool, I am not judging at all!

Have fun hunting for your perfect flavor…Stresses be gone!

Frozen: 6 feet deep of mixed messages

Those of you with kids know that any tv show or movie they take a liking to you are probably going to watch more than 30 times in the span of a year.  I have watched Frozen over 30 times know, I can pretty much recite every song, every line and I know everything that is going to happen at every corner.  It's the one movie out of many of the new ones of my daughter's generation that seems to bother me a lot.  Don't get me wrong, I love the music and I enjoy some of the characters, but the message is a little fucked up.  Sure, if you think back to the Disney movies we all used to watch back in the 80's and 90's there was some fucked up stuff going on in those as well, (mostly the people creating the films tripping on acid and other drugs drawing things into the scenes that you had to look really hard to see..Also lots of parents dying in the beginning of a lot of those movies, but we can get into that another time.)  

Frozen in particular seems messed up because it's basically saying, "Hey, if you have a problem, shut everyone out!"  Damn if that were the way life really worked we would all be living in our own bunkers under ground, might not be so bad to have to deal with the assholes of the world, but that's just not the way life works.  I don't know about the rest of you, but I have an exceptionally smart kid, she is extremely intuitive.  I might as well be letting her watch rated R movies, (I do sometimes.)  So she is asking me every time we watch it, why Elsa is so sad all the time and why isn't she talking to her sister Anna, and why is she walking alone, blah blah blah..LOTS OF QUESTIONS.  I totally don't mind answering these questions honestly.  I am not the parent who is EVER going to beat around the bush with my kid.  She is 2 1/2 and she already knows where babies come from.  They grow in the belly and come out the vagina.  She doesn't know how they are made, I figure she will find out in kindergarten, believe me there are worse things she could find out so don't get yourself all crazy about it!  

Family is a big deal, kids shouldn't think that they can just shut whomever they want out of their lives because they have an issue they cannot figure out how to deal with.  "Conceal it don't feel it", tell me something I don't know Elsa, if I had a dollar for every time, HA!  If I was Anna, I would have been like fuck it Elsa, stay in your ice castle like the frigid selfish bitch that you are.  The one thing you have to lean on in this life, the only people that will truly be there for you no matter what the issue, is your family.  I guess Elsa ends up realizing this in the end, but damn it takes the whole movie of Anna almost dying because her sister can't get it together.  Hmmmm, drug addict?  If you don't understand the reference, never mind, move on.  Oh ya and speaking of lots of death in the first Disney movies that came out years ago, Elsa and Anna's parents die at the beginning of this one too.  Can these movies stop killing the parents please.  This happens a lot in Disney movies and I don't quite understand the obsession with death.  Think about it for a second.  Bambi, The Little Mermaid didn't have a Mom, Cinderella didn't have a Mom, Sleeping Beauty didn't have a Mom, the list goes on.  Weird right?  I didn't realize this until I got much older, like basically into my late 20's.

Food for thought.  What is really the difference in letting your kid watch a rated R movie or a PG movie that is sending mixed messages where my kid is going to be asking me if I am going to die every time I leave on a trip with out her.  I know I know, DRAMATIC, I am actually giggling, I truly love all of these movies and I am happy I get to live vicariously through my kid everyday and sing all the music at the top of my lungs!! Until next time, enjoy your Saturday :)

xoxo